An interesting but very complicated subject. Once in my Sixth form days ( independent UK school ; boarding and day ) , I took the opportunity when preparing to speak in a debate ( between ourselves and our sister school ) on corporal punishment, to raise this with my ‘friend’ the acting deputy head miss F ( on secondment from our sister school , due to long tem illness of our deputy) . To my surprise, ( because I admit I initiated the discussion more out of curiosity than real ‘need’), she was quite open and discussed the issue frankly and at length.
I should admit at this point that in my youth I was a committed diarist, a residual habit from my days as a school ‘wimp’, and I put this conversation down almost immediately afterwards .