In my case I’m into the BDSM scene so I went to a couple of events femme first.

I have some good friends in the scene who I knew wouldn’t judge me and I could trust them for honest feedback on what they thought when they first saw me.

The feedback was really good so that helped to give me the confidence to go outdoors dressed.

I see your profile says you’re sub which is why I mentioned this,

it might appeal to you, it might not.