From a Non-indulgent nana! in 1977

A mother reached out to me, concerned that her children were being overly indulged by their grandmother. She feared that the children were receiving too much leniency and not enough structure.

In today’s world, where many mothers are working, it’s crucial that grandparents provide the same level of care and guidance as parents do at home. This consistency is vital for children’s development and helps them grow up with a balanced outlook.

I am a firm grandmother! From the beginning, I made it clear to my daughter that her children would be treated the same way she was. They must say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, play nicely, and help with chores. This teaches them responsibility and good manners.

If they misbehave, they face the same wooden spoon I used on their mother. This traditional method has been effective in maintaining discipline.

When my daughter was young, she too would receive a firm spanking with the wooden spoon for misbehavior. It was a consistent and clear form of discipline that she understood.

The wooden spoon is reserved for serious misbehavior, and the children know that when it comes out, they have crossed a line. Often, just mentioning the wooden spoon is enough to correct their behavior.

The wooden spoon is a simple yet effective tool. Made from sturdy oak, it has a smooth, polished surface and a long handle for a firm grip. The broad, flat bowl delivers a quick, sharp sting without causing lasting harm. Its appearance alone commands respect and serves as a reminder of the consequences of misbehavior.

When it is used, I explain to them why they are being punished. This way, they understand the consequences of their actions and learn from their mistakes. The spanking is quick but firm, leaving a lasting impression that helps them remember to follow the rules.

Despite this, or perhaps because of it, the wooden spoon is rarely necessary. The children enjoy visiting nana’s house and usually follow the rules, making our time together pleasant and fun.

I believe that the occasional sore bottom does them good, as their parents are somewhat permissive and there’s no corporal punishment at their school. This way, they learn that actions have consequences, an important life lesson.

I love my grandchildren, but that doesn’t mean I’m a pushover! I believe in tough love, where discipline and affection go hand in hand. This way, they grow up knowing they are loved but also understand the importance of boundaries.