Ken and Karen both started to have a tear from one of each of their eyes roll down their cheeks, no doubt, deep adult tears.

“You are the first regenerated couple in the world but not the first regenerate couple. There are regenerates who met after they were regenerated and have been dating each other, and there is one couple who even got married just before you were born. You are not the first clients I have had who have started to have bonding issues with their mommy, either. That is the purpose of the first night where mommy isn’t there. A well bonded infant will immediately show signs of insecurity that you two had not shown. I’ve seen first hand, situations when a regenerate fails to have his or her emotional needs met because they set aside their bonding instinct, for one reason or another, sometimes just to try to grow up fast. Maybe they don’t have the same out-of-control behavior as original children with displaced attachment issues, but they still become very withdrawn, very isolated, very socially resistant, and have to go through the painful process of re-bonding, if even that is successful. They are also even much more vulnerable to …. not being a success story in their second childhood.”

Maribel winced a couple of times to prevent tears from streaming down her face, albeit unsuccessfully, “To be honest, even if I have to be brutal, … I’ve known one who did not make it simply because she lost bonding with her mommy and daddy. Trust me, it’s much easier to go back into using your bonding instinct now than later.

“So please, just remember, for my sake, for your mommy’s sake, for your sake, for each other’s sake, for the sake of everyone who loves you both and who put you into a new childhood: bonding with your mommy is a gift from God, and perhaps one day you may have a daddy to bond to you too. Bonding with parents is not bondage. Not bonding with parents is bondage.”