I’ve just got back from a couple of nights in Edinburgh* having flown pretty both ways. There was no agro in either airport, but the automated barrier at Heathrow didn’t like either my online boarding pass or my wig so had to queue at the assistance desk after which it behaved, so next time I […]

I have a few flights in Jan and will be flying all of them as Georgie! Just remember – there’s nothing illegal about looking like a woman. As others have said – as long as your ID matches your ticket then you’re good. I got stopped at Heathrow after my ticket didn’t scan at the […]

I asked a native French friend who lives in Ireland yesterday about travelling to France as Michelle and she said she didn’t think there would be any problem. I’m totally confused I don’t necessarily read it as bad. As long as use your passport name on all your ID and tickets then all will be […]

It isn’t such good news from the French side of things who replied to an email I sent: Hello, Thank you for contacting the France Consular Service. We wanted to inform you, in order to make your trip as smooth as possible, that all travel documents, such as plane tickets, reservations and visas must be […]

I flew out of LHR a couple of weeks ago and no issues with my forms whatsoever. Mine are silicone tho. But if you think about the scanners are designed to pick up metallic objects. So shouldn’t pick up a breast form. I just made sure I took off anything metallics. So that meant all […]

I’ve flown many times, DUB-LCY was the first flight, only issue was getting my hire car. The Polish chap said the license (paper one) was for a man. I told it was me…take a good look. I’ve done quite a few German cities and also into Switzerland so have done passport control. The easyJet stewardess […]

To be fair I don’t think I really pass as a cis woman. But again, I had no issues except for the usual few odd looks from a minority of passengers. You should both do it! It is a great experience The UK and RoI have a treaty known as the common travel area that […]

I had no issues at all regarding my gender not matching my passport. The airline staff did not blink twice at boarding. The security staff were all lovely, calling me Miss and getting a female attendant to pat me after I set off the metal detector. (a million miles from the horror stories I heard […]

In the past, I flew with my old passport (and used the channel tunnel too). Having my new female one helped avoid a few explanations and made car hire in Slovenia easier though. I did have a funny experience in Lisbon when we went to the baggage check-in for our flight back home. We handed […]

I Flew UK->US and back, UK->Dublin and back, UK->Greece, and half a dozen others I’d forgotten during the social transition but before I had a passport or driving license in the appropriate name/gender. Had one border guard in Greece be a little awkward and one guy before boarding a BA flight to the US at […]

I’m flying to Dublin soon and I would love to do so as myself. My problem is that my passport is still under my male identity. Would that be a problem for passport control in Ireland and back to the UK? I’m thinking that it should not as I am free to dress as I […]

Reply My only experience with a home hair color kit was in my early transition days. I was running late and I hurriedly followed all the instructions to the letter However, I blew dried my hair quickly before going out for a meal with two friends who had come up to York. I set off […]

  Reply Just for men is not “a color” it is in several color tones that sort of mask the grey hair. It is okay but it won’t last six weeks you’d be lucky to get four weeks out of it. Most colleges that do hairdressing courses are always on the lookout for models. Why […]

If you want something that you can get away with in front of “family” but will look femme as well, when you want it too, you could try what I have done. I had highlights put in for a “been out in the sun” effect. If I brush my hair, mixing the highlights in with […]

Reply With dark brown hair, you’ll need to have some highlights put in first, though this does depend on what effect you are looking for. Putting aside male or female hair types, mostly because I don’t believe there’s a lot of difference when it comes to coloring. Basic stuff, if you want to color dark […]

Question So far I have been trying Shaders & Toners wash-in and out. However, the rich mahogany color tends to make me look like Quentin Crisp. If you don’t know who he was, ask an auntie. I have now invested in “Just for Men” which I am planning to try. However at £5 for 6 […]

Reply Let’s just say I feel girly a lot, in fact most of the time so I have no doubt lots of you will say I should transition but I am too old to take that step, As to feeling just right I usually use feminine antiperspirant and body spray over my panties and 60 […]

Reply I have been weaving in a lot more fem touches when drab these days. I have lightened my dirty blonde hair to a much brighter shade, I sometimes wear nail polish This is mainly black, I shave my legs, have started to wear brighter clothes although still men’s This includes pale blue or orange […]

Reply I’ve been wearing ladies’ jeans since my 20’s. I was told when I went to buy a suit that I had big hips and would need a bigger waist size to get the trousers over my bum. Since then I’ve found that ladies’ jeans fit me better than men’s. What really makes me feel […]

Reply I wear lingerie especially sexy panties and either holdups or tights when I have that urge to be girly. Also like many, I wear femme walking leggings and even have some femme jeans. Oh and a hint of neutral lipgloss is a must not too much but the taste and feel is so so […]

Reply it just happens today, I needed to go to the bank, I so much wanted to be Jane, but having to see a cashier to withdraw money, I thought better of it. Ninety percent of my wardrobe is female, jeans t’s, etc. So on went my best jeans, a nice t-shirt, not too feminine, […]

Reply You can wear just female clothing all the time and nobody will notice if your discreet. That is unless you want to push the boundaries If it makes you feel better then do it all the time.

  Reply If I get the chance to wear some femme clothes underneath my drab ones then that’s always good. But even just painting my toenails makes me feel a little bit better

Reply I pretty much wear female jeans or walking trousers all the time. People would need to be eagle-eyed to spot the difference apart from the subtle glitter pattern on the bum of my fave jeans. I have got a few pairs of ankle-high jeans and these when worn with little ankle socks and Converse […]

Reply I bought some Female walking trousers, they are soft, skin tight and stretchy, so much better than my baggy ones bloke walking trousers. I wear them all the time now always tucked, no one has batted an eyelid. The only downside is the tiny pockets This means I have to carry my phone.

Question Last weekend I wanted to feel girlie whilst out but not fully dressed. So I put on my girlie pale blue sneakers with little trainer socks. Rolled up my jeans to mid-calf level. So you could see my totally shaved shiny calves. It felt so girlie I couldn’t believe it. I even heard someone […]

Reply I always hate the makeup coming off, and always take a good long look at myself in the mirror to keep that image until next time. Reply I love dressing and seeing the gradual transformation that takes place. However, I hate taking my makeup and wig off, along with whatever nice outfit and shoes […]

Got to be done carefully. If work outed me they’d make me LGBT liason or something (extra work, no extra pay :p ). And then I aim, every 6 months or so, to have an evening/weekend out as Jenny, at some club or another. It goes up and down, and varies a lot.

There are weeks when I’m not bothered and happy to be male, then I desperately want to be female to some degree. Luckily my wife knows about Jenny and my children are too young to care (at this point), so I can slip into some shapewear or outerwear for an evening or afternoon. My work […]

Don’t try to ‘manage’ or question it too much. Just go with what makes you happy and comfortable at the time. Mine is strange as sometimes I go through months as femme and other times I can swap overnight for a day. This I don’t understand but I’m slowly learning the only way to be […]

Reply I used to. I didn’t purge as that’s expensive, but I could go for months at a time without dressing while my clothes stayed in my wardrobe. When I didn’t dress I think I was kidding myself I’d finally got over it. After a marriage and a really long break from dressing, my femme […]

Question As long as I can remember I love dressing up all feminine but after many regretted purges I find the urge to dress returns. I have now resorted to purging my girlie things to the attic so I avoid the increasing expense of rebuilding my wardrobe. What I’m struggling with is the strength of […]

The idea of transition has crossed my mind a couple of times over the years, but I always know that it’s not for me. I cannot survive without both my personas Reply Just be comfortable with who you are anyway guys wear makeup so that option is always open. Reply I really feel down changing […]

Reply That is actually the best description of what I’m in too. Sometimes I can’t be bothered to become Sarah. Too much effort…etc, but I know I can if I want to. Sometimes I am happiest just being my male self. An ex-girlfriend told me she would never have suspected I had a femme side […]

However, I think having Jade as part of me makes me more empathetic towards them and others actually. I came to realise I don’t want to be Jade all the time but neither could I live happily without being her. My advice for what its worth is don’t rush to anything. It is ok to […]

Reply For me it depends. Sometimes I want to stay Jade. Other times I actually quite enjoy rediscovering the other me. Some days I love making up. Others I just can’t faff with it. I think that’s why I reached a happy place living two lives. Thought a lot about the transition over the years […]

Reply Oh yes for sure…male = drab and boring crossdressing= fun so I feel sad when it stops Reply Definitely. I feel like I really don’t want to go back to boring drab life. I feel so exhilarated and happy when I’m all made up, and the world seems so much more exciting! It’s that […]

Reply I’ve felt sad on occasions, especially after my first few times out in public. This stopped once I’d been out a few times once I realized that it was going to be a regular thing and I could just look forward to the next time. Reply I often feel a little disappointed when I […]

Reply Is this because when you take off your makeup, your removing your identity? You say you never had the opportunity before which was acting as a restriction, keeping a lid on your advancement. Now you have free rain to be who you are, your expressing feelings of sadness. You should pay attention to this […]

Question Well, I’ve come back to dressing this year after a 4 year hiatus, and must say I’ve never enjoyed it so much. As I live alone I can dress anytime I want, and can experiment with make-up styles, which is something I never got to do properly before. Used to be just lipstick and […]

I am not trangendered. Just a regular TV/CD who’s comfortable in both my personas, but am noticing I’m actually in a happier, bouncier mood when dressed, and feel a twinge of sadness when I get out of my femme self for a while afterward Sorry, it sounds longwinded, and maybe I’m just being silly. Just […]

The appointment lasted about an hour, it was wonderful. No pressure to buy anything, but I did, and the two ladies made notes of what to do for me to take away with me. She stressed the importance of using moisturiser frequently, then a primer before foundation. I loved every minute of it, felt so […]

Reply I know that the thought of going to any make up counter is terrifying. I screwed up the courage and went to Boots at Barnstaple in Devon in drabs and was very honest with the lady. She was utterly charming, She went on to tell me that they had at least 30 clients the […]

Reply Good Luck A J, and I hope it all works for you. There could be an argument to say that the fewer tranny haunts there are, the less people will look. It is possible that the big problem is in upbringing. If from a young enough age people are made aware of our existence, […]

I have done one ‘vanilla’ venue, and that was my first ever time out in Bristol. It was also in an Indian restaurant just a short walk from Club 46, so I don’t know how vanilla it was. My first real test of being out in the ‘real world is coming on Wednesday with a […]

Reply I’ve found that being a larger girl, my self-confidence used to be terrible. However, over the years, I’ve realized that you have to have confidence in the way you look first before you can project that confidence outwards to others… Now, certainly in friendly places, I’m totally fine, and even somewhere like Canal St […]

Reply   Being scared-looking someone in the eyes makes you look submissive and vulnerable. You will look like a born victim. My tactics have always been total superiority and an air of total confidence. You just have to learn how to act. Women do it all the time. Try to act like a lady that […]

Reply Soft Shadow and Susan I am not suggesting walking down the road staring confrontationally at everyone who gives you a glance is a good thing. In those circumstances, I always try to appear distracted by looking in shops, holding a mobile to my ear, and so on. However, when being given grief, as I […]

Reply For me, this is a serious issue. I am hugely confident. Being Portia increases that tremendously. But I have a few issues still and when I step out that door…Bam! Paranoia and worry and inability to meet anyone’s eyes. I wish I could avoid it but it hits. Of course, I have not really […]

Reply I’m not so sure about your rule No1 Jenni With your background in the marines, you may have the confidence. However, most people suggest that confrontation can arise from too much eye contact, no matter who or what you are. OK some young “ladettes” revel in this when they are drunk, but most R […]

Reply It may be true that alcohol can help a lot. This is much the same with the apprehension, scared, and excited part of it all. However, drinking may put you at the risk of becoming dependent on alcohol. Thus making you an alcoholic I know girls who always take a drink or two before […]

Reply I personally find drinking a great help. Not joking! In a way it may be good to be apprehensive Being apprehensive and scared can add to the excitement I can even miss the scared bit when I am in an all too comfortable situation.

rule number 3. Revel in the liberation of your femininity. Love it, embrace it, enjoy it. If people see you loving every moment of life they will love you.

Rule number 2. You are allowed. You are entitled to be who you are. Anyone who disagrees are narrow-minded people that are prisoners of their own narrow minds.

Reply It’s only as scary as going to the Boots No7 counter and saying “Can I have a colour match for foundation please?” Just a few minutes and it’s done. Sure you will be nervous as you’ve never done it before but once you’ve done it you’ll wonder why you were worried in the first […]

Reply Think and be positive, just do it as you don’t need to visit your local Boots or other make-up counters obviously. It is not about courage, just having faith, and as I’ve said before, no ones gives a hoot or even notices because in their own little world. By doing this, you are saving […]

Reply Thanks very much ladies that’s all very helpful and informative. I have dry skin so that’s why I went with the silk finish product. Never heard of BB and CC creams! I can’t see me getting the courage to go to Boots, even in drab, one day perhaps!

They are lighter than foundation and CC creams give good coverage. I use Boots No7 Protect and Perfect CC cream. Try to stay away from thick foundations – they contain a lot of powder which will make mature skin look dry. A good lighter foundation is Estee Lauder Double Wear. The Maybelline one you used […]

  Reply I’m another one who haunts the No.7 counter at Boots. I agree that the assistants are always very helpful, so don’t hesitate to ask for advice! The makeup counters at John Lewis are another good place for advice. Older skin needs slightly different treatment than those lucky young things. First moisturize, then put […]

Reply Yes, all good advice The first time I did a proper colour match I was in drab. No problems, and undoubtedly saved me years and lots of money in buying the wrong products. The important point about winter and summer, especially if you tend to catch the sun. Regarding photographs, a lot can depend […]

Reply It’s not a silly question. Foundation is a nightmare to get right. The No7 counter in Boots is a great way to start. I’ve never come across anyone reluctant to help, whether I’ve been dressed or in drab. I use a concealer in my wrinkles so they don’t look as deep. If I take […]

Reply I know this may sound ‘scary’ but it is not too bad to be honest. Why don’t you just visit some of the make-up counters in Boots, or likewise shops and, ask the girls for some advice? Just admit to them that you dress and believe me they will help you (and possible sale […]

Question I’m an old wrinkly and have only been using makeup a few months. I started with a cheapo foundation from Technic. Medium-thick I suppose and a touch too yellow. I looked surprisingly good in face photos, though I say it myself. A few weeks ago I got a Maybelline Dream Radiant Silk foundation, a […]

 Question   I am 5’10”, an ex-royal marine, build to match, and living lifestyle. I could never pass as a genetic female no matter what surgery I paid for. When going out dressed I find the following three rules help me.

Reply Many things, especially at this time contribute to the reluctance to go out. Have we become complacent with our attitude to socializing with fear taking hold? If we listen to the media, sexual predators amongst us raise the bar and drive the reluctance to mix with others and impose self-policing to a new level. […]

The other important thing to note is that such groups, including Beaumont, are truly inclusive, in as much that they also welcome partners. Many times, beginners, or even seasoned dressers, of whichever description, face a mental block, loss of confidence, or indeed even just a valid reason to bother getting dolled up and then go […]

Reply This is where as a community, we need support groups or specific social venues just for ourselves and other LGBT+. I had the pleasure and benefit of visiting such a group near Exeter, being the local Beaumont group. There are also numerous groups under the broader LGBT+. Although not exactly local to me, a […]

Another thing I did was to do ordinary things, like go food shopping, fill up the car with fuel, post a letter, walk the dog, go to the post office to send a parcel or buy some stamps, buy your take away, go to a cafe and read a book while having a cuppa. There […]

Reply I wonder if you are nervous of what other people think of you, something I battled against in the early days. So, I forced myself to form an opinion of other people I could see when out and about. Then, I asked myself, how have my thoughts changed the life of that person over […]

Reply Reading your post, we’re pretty much in the same position. The only differences (i believe, but you can tell me otherwise) that may be a factor are:- 1/ My wife knows but is unsupportive 2/ I used to travel a lot with work. So I am used to going out and about solo and […]

Reply Unwinding the gender puzzle is full of red herrings, self-doubt. It can take years to establish where you fit which involves trial and error. You may have to start again doing the easy things like “late night dog walk” to boost your confidence. Maybe with out your wife as it just adds pressure.

But that’s difficult when I really want to reach the endpoint as I am sure I will be much happier (something I have wanted my whole life and just when I thought I was getting somewhere after all those years in the closet denying, I am now scared of losing it all). Being able to […]

I think I have been loosely promising myself to look into the possibility of trying out full-time in about 12 months when I have settled into a new job by then. But there’s no way that’s going to happen at this rate. It was likely a rush before to achieve in this time frame, but […]

Reply I don’t have a problem going out as a male. And want and need to go out. I just have last-minute nerves and then get changed back and then end up going out as male. This starts to get the wife frustrated waiting for me. Several months ago it was much better and much […]

Reply I think you need to build a social life like Carol. It gives going out a purpose, something to be enjoyed, something to look forward to. Fate has chosen the worst time ever, to come out and find your feet. The last year and a half have been extremely difficult so don’t be too […]

Reply It takes a huge amount of courage to step out the front door for the first time. As one does it more and more, the amount of courage required diminishes, to the point that it becomes ‘almost’ negligible…. but maybe it becomes subconscious. I’d guess that there’s still a lot of subconscious stress involved […]

Reply Yes, I experience this sometimes also and found a psychological trick that helps me across the door threshold, I pop a mint in my mouth as I’m getting ready to go out. (about 10 or 20 minutes before exiting). I’ve managed to ritualize it and make it the threshold instead of the door in […]

Reply Not wanting to go out, has nothing to do with going back in the closet. Unless you are starting to feel that way? You also haven’t said that you want to go out, but can’t, and is there a problem with not wanting to go out? I am sure many people don’t go out […]

I think being Carol all week gave me a lot of confidence to do the same at the weekend as well as felt more normal and used to it. Even more strangely I find myself choosing to go to work rather than stay at home and deny myself more femme time, even though I am […]

Reply Looking at that I think that’s partly what’s happened with me. Working from home less and less and more DRAB visits to the office in the week. I think like you that has indeed reduced the evening times going out dressed as it’s usually bath, dinner, and bed. Strangely it seems to of impacted […]

Reply I agree the last couple of years have made a difference. Although when working from home i dressed more and also did the chores and shopping. Now back in the office, i dress less. The talk at work is that we are moving to hybrid working, which would be great, best of both worlds. […]

  Reply I think the last 2 years have taken away a lot of the drive to go out. Feels like too much hassle and I can’t be arsed. I still go out daytime, but the evening scene in Manchester has shifted away from that which I knew. I think it’s really important to have […]

I eventually realised that this wasn’t really enough and I needed to get out more. It was quite easily solved by a bit of retail therapy, even if was popping out to the supermarket, going to buy some makeup, shop for clothes, etc. It certainly helped me with my confidence anyway. You already have the […]

Reply Yes, I’ve had the odd drop in confidence but thankfully not for a couple of years. I wasn’t going out as much as I used to after my partner changed to a 9-5 job. This wasn’t a problem as we got more time together, but I wasn’t going out as much on my own […]

Reply Yes, I can relate to this. Whatever thrill there was is gone. At this point I don’t bottle, however, rather I’m ambivalent, and it takes more effort to walk out the door in female mode, so I don’t bother.

Reply I find that I tend to go out as Zoe less in the summer months and this has been the case for years. I don’t know whether this is because I find more things to do during the summer or whether wearing make-up and all the other clobber is less comfortable in warm weather. […]

I am probably more convincing than i have ever been……..Yet I find myself more and more getting ready to go out than bottling it at the last minute. In that sense, I am going backward and losing confidence. Not really sure i have a question here as the answer is quite simple i.e. “Just do […]

Question Since I first started to come out to myself as Carol a couple of years ago now, I managed to get the confidence to go out, and over time I was going out reasonably regularly, although not every day. Since then I have come a long way and makeup has improved, clothes selection improved, […]

Reply  I’d probably avoid the wand curlers. It’s quite easy to tangle your hair in them. Have you thought of using plastic curlers on your fringe? You could use a dryer to set. I’ve used straighteners to curl hair..but conscious of heat damage so don’t use straighteners too often Reply  Will they work on such […]

Reply It is not just us t-girls that find sizes a problem. My 35-year-old daughter does as well. There is a big difference between Marks and spencers and lots of the others according to her, Marks and Spencer tend to have smaller sizes. My advice to you is to ask to be measured when buying […]

Reply Found 29 pounds for a pair of knickers a bit too steep!!!   Reply Like Mel says, its the sales and special offers that make it worthwhile. As for sizes in general, it is tricky. At 5’11” and about 185 pounds, skirts are tricky cos of length.   Top half’s can be even harder. […]

Reply Have you tried LadyBwear? She does both males, and female cuts for a lot of her stuff. Another thing to remember is that some skirts come in what is known a slow waist, (hipster style as it used to be back in the 60s/70s). As we tend to have different shaped hips to genuine […]

Reply Yes, dress sizes do change from shop to shop. In my experience, they do tend to stay the same in a particular shop.   I am also, along with many other T vees , a different size at the top and at the bottom.

Question I just thought I’d see if other t-girls have as much trouble as I do with dress sizes.   Why is it that 14’s and 16’s are so variable. For example, I’ve had 14’s hang off me, and 16’s that have strangled me.   I do realize that the average girl has a different […]

I’ve stripped off and started again on more than one occasions Last night I used Vichy Dermablend foundation and set it with baby powder. I have a stash of Vichy setting powder However, I thought I’d give the baby powder a shot and I wasn’t disappointed and neither was my boyfriend. I have and still […]

Reply I would tend to agree and I am particularly easy on eye makeup these days for that exact reason – very light on eye shadow and liner but can’t forego the mascara My skin, if anything, still borders on oily plus most liquid foundations have an oily based transport – leave them for a […]

Reply Yes, the older you get, the less product your face will tolerate. This is when it gets worthwhile to buy higher-end products in my experience. Where I have ‘cracking areas’ (under my chin, nasolabial folds, outer corners of my eyes) I apply a high-coverage concealer very thinly. I don’t put a foundation on those […]

For my previously very oily skin, I found it alright – it did a decent job of mattifying; but the downfalls I found was sometimes it would go on looking cakey and make things look heavier, or didn’t always like to layer too well when I’d need to retouch – and also it could leave a […]

Reply When I was younger, cheaper – and much more oily – I used to use it quite a bit. Sometimes by itself, but more often I’d use it to bulk out a face powder.  

Reply Being a member of the dry river club, I found that the best way to apply foundation powder was with a firm brush. It doesn’t seem to gather as much.

Reply The more one’s face resembles a dry river bed, the less one should use powder. Yes, even those who have no issue with oily skin might get some benefit from powder if they have cracked and crease-free skin to begin with, but if they’re in the dry river bed category like me, I advise going […]

Reply Perhaps I was being liberal with the word ‘liberal’ but conversely, if you’re trying to set a foundation then being too frugal won’t cut it either. As for only using powder on oily skin, many a pro makeup artist would beg to differ. Setting the foundation with powder makes it last longer. In the […]

Reply This is confounding. Seems to me that in no case should one be “liberal” in the use of powder. One should always use as little as possible. Moreover, the powder is really advisable only for those who have oily skin.

The L’Oreal foundation is the cheapest one I use the results with the baby powder were quite frankly astounding. Not least of all probably because I was far more liberal with it than the twenty pounds a pop, small pot of Vichy setting powder. My other foundations are Vichy Dermablend Doll 10 TCE Doll 10 […]

Reply I used Tesco Baby Powder. So first wash and then moisturize with Nivea 3 in 1 cleanser, toner, moisturiser Then I used L’Oreal Infallible mattifying primer base. Then Dermacolor D32 set with the baby powder. Then L’Oreal Infallible Full coverage foundation set with the baby powder and then a bit of bronzer for contouring. […]

Reply I’ve been using baby powder for years, both as a setting powder (before bronzer/blush) and to define just above the jawline. Reply I’m going to use baby powder. Just love the smell. And it’s so much cheaper than setting powder

Question Has anyone ever used talc instead? I have for the first time tonight and so far I can’t tell the difference. The cost difference of course is diabolical. I looked at the ingredients of a couple of my usual brands, Vichy and L’Oreal, and both contain talc. Edit: If this turns out to be […]

  Reply   Just tried bendable foam rollers. Hardly held in place and a bit of a disappointment really. But they were pound shop ones that wife picked up for me to try. I think will have to try something more expensive, or I am due a haircut soon.

Reply   I have a similar problem. I use a large round brush as I dry my hair. When it’s almost dry wrap the hair around the brush and heat it with the dryer to dry it. Switch the dryer to cold or allow the hair to cool to set it. Once it’s styled add hair […]

  Reply I guess you do not actually want to perm your hair just set it. You can get setting lotion to use and you will also need perm end papers. Reply  I’m reasonably confident that as a child I was told that putting your fingers in an electrical socket would make your hair curl, […]

Question What’s the best way to add tight curls to hair that’s only 4 to 6 inches in length. It’s not really long enough for most curlers. Trying to do something with my natural fringe and it’s getting long I want to curl it so it’s apparent length is shorter. And hopefully will benefit by […]

Reply Fortunately, I have several scarlet or bright red petticoats in my collection of slips and petticoats, two scarlet waist slips, and a red full slip, I adore slips and petticoats, they make me feel so feminine and I never dress without wearing one. In my collection I have white, ivory, black, emerald green, scarlet, […]

Reply Thanks for your brilliant suggestion about the seats in my skirts. I had a look at them, one has a back seat in the center of the skirt, the other two side seams. I phoned a female friend who knows of my chosen lifestyle She came over and has already opened the back seam […]

Reply Have a look at the construction of the skirt to see if there is the possibility of opening a hem seam for a short distance. If there is a back seam you could open it for six inches without losing the pencil fit, which really only needs to be tight in the top half […]

Reply Thank you so much for your helpful reply. I prefer hold-ups to tights, tights are quite rare for me to wear. I love wearing knickers so they will remain neither of my pencil skirts are lined they are a perfect fit around my waist but quite tight at the hem. I shall persevere!

Also, you have rather a lot going on if you have tights, pants, petticoats,s and a skirt. A change to holdups might help, then you wouldn’t have to mess about with the waistband of the tights. Losing the knickers also helps… However, perhaps that’s not your style… I suspect your best source for a straight […]

Reply I have a couple of pencil skirts but they have enough stretch in them that toilet manipulations are no problem. Like you, I don’t like to lower my skirt into whatever might be on the floor of a public toilet. It sounds to me as though they are simply a bit on the small […]

My pencil skirts are really difficult to get up over my, not over large hips, This is so much so that when I am at home it is easier to slip my skirt down to my ankles first. However, I am reluctant to do this if I am out and, using public/shop toilets. I wondered […]

Question I have a couple of pencil skirts which I love to wear from time to time. However, I have a problem when wearing them and need to go to the loo. My other skirts are no problem, I hitch them  and my usual petticoat up towards my waist the knickers and tights If I […]

Delia Replies I am really sorry for you Jessica. I wouldn’t have involved the police. I have always sorted problems myself as the courts will never give the judgment I would demand. But that is me not you. You handle it in the best way you can or feel comfortable with.

We are very fortunate in this country to have recently seen some serious legislative changes designed to protect the rights of LGBT people. This lets the whole of society know that whatever their prejudices, each and every person in this country is to be treated as a ‘first-class citizen. I say don’t be afraid to […]

Julia Replies Jessica, I was alarmed and sorry to hear about this horrendous act. A sweeping statement but, I really hoped that this rather “80s” behaviour had vanished by now. It sounds like you have managed to retain the upper hand as far as possible. However, you would do well to pursue things with the […]

Jemma Replies thanks for the kind words. police have been called but it is not been helpful. (no surprise there) no offence to any ladies in blue on here.

Dorothy Replies   I agree with Sarah…should have considered going to the police No one has a right to get away with that.! Hope you’re on the mend.

  Sarah Replies Hope you are feeling better. However, if you know who it was, and you have received medical treatment, then go to the police. It does not matter whatever about the gender of the people involved, this is a case of common assault. Even if there is insufficient evidence to prosecute, it would […]

Being close to midnight I decided it was best if I started to head for home. Unfortunately, as I walked down the road the blackmailer followed me, and eventually attacked me. I sustained a black eye, and two days later it was confirmed I had a fractured jaw. I consider myself an easy-going person and […]

Jemma Posts   Please note, that it is not my intention to scare anyone here. First off, I am totally out about my crossdressing to my friends, and family, who have all seen me dressed. As well as this I am not a full-time dresser, hence I am not always cross-dressing when out with friends. […]

He was perfectly fine with it even after I’d answered his questions and comments on sexuality and so on. I’m not totally sure he has completely the right end of the stick But now he knows and I think, if anything, we’re better friends than before. One thing I did do was to take some […]

What I did do in the end was arrange to go and see him. This was at a time that I knew he’s been on his own. I took my wife along for moral support. Then I basically just told him the bare facts. This was with the viewpoint that if he asked any questions […]

  When it was B N O night and he fancied going out for a beer or whatever and I just felt that that was wrong. His friendship is too important to me for that. I agonized over it for ages. However in the end I was spurred on by my wife. She pointed out […]

Reply Given that you’re already ‘out’ to your partner, that’s probably the hardest bit done already! Telling friends is different though. I guess you have to ask yourself ‘why should I?’ In my own case, I’d started going out regularly as Trisha, having my friends from here over for drinkies. I found that my very […]

All who know don’t have any issues with it which is lucky for me. The only advice I can think of is not to try to tell them everything about it all in one go. Tell them what you are and leave it at that. Don’t go into a long rambling monologue, This is what […]

Reply I think who you tell does depend on where you’re going with it all. Now, I’m just a part-time TV I see no reason to tell my parents, so I haven’t. As they’re about 120 miles from me they aren’t going to be popping around, and finding out by accident. I have told some […]

Reply I told my dad and he was more than great. then, my brother, he was also brilliant I just wish I could have told my wife before she found out.

Reply Warning IF you can cope with losing your family, being ostracised, never being welcome, being called “It”, being alone, fed-up, depressed, even suicidal. On the good side, just perhaps they’ll accept. My two penn’orth, tell one of the family only, the one you get on with, share a bond. get their reaction first and, […]

Reply From one who knows through not following my own advice. Honesty is the best policy Especially to those adults and nearest and dearest to you. It isn’t anyone else business unless you want it to be.

Reply The only way you can do so is to be totally honest to them, If you try to hide anything, there is always the possibility that they will be thinking what else do you have to hide. Be truthful and honest. Also, be prepared for angry responses and to be rejected and ridiculed. Now, […]

Question Mine is a question open to all and contemplated by many of the girls who haven’t done so yet. What is the best way to come out to the ones close to you? I find this harder to do than to someone i barely know.

Reply I had a full-body and full-face laser treatment many years ago. I have had no problems at all. The laser used was a Soprano and was virtually pain-free except on the upper lip. Seek advice, find a reputable clinic, and go for it. Nothing is risk-free but I wouldn’t hesitate to do it again.

Reply This all echoes what I was told by my clinic which was the skin can be easily burned by the sun after treatment for up to a year so must wear sun cream even on cloudy days. So perhaps this is where the skin cancer discussion and possible myth come from it’s easier to […]

Reply Not sure where you got your information from but the NHS suggests there is no known link between laser hair surgery and skin cancer. Did you get your information from a reliable source?

Question I was seriously considering going through a full-body laser hair removal. but read some very negative comments recently. Some say this can easily cause cancer! I’m now hesitant to go for it but other solutions don’t last long (ie. waxing…). I love to hear from other girls experienced on this topic.

Reply I think I’ve gone as far as I can with the hair-minimizing lotion by Johnsons. I can’t use Veet or the like, nor can I wax Attempts to do the same caused horrendous problems for me.

Hormones help a little but not much. A combination of Finasteride (Proscar or Propecia) a prescription-only drug, Regaine (OTC preparation) and Retin-A (script only) helps restore lost hair to the crown and vertex respectively. The latter two need to be applied daily. Vaniqa is expensive and script only and available on the NHS but costly […]

Ts women take hormones for reasons other than to reduce body hair because it makes them feel better without the poisoning nature of testosterone. Body hair reduces with hormones and also by taking Androcur which is a dangerous antiandrogen that can make you sterile and affect your ability to have any carnal functioning. It is […]

Reply Vaniqa is the only hair retardation that works. However, only while taking it and it’s only available on prescription   Reply The only way to rid yourself of body hair is to use a hair removal method. Temporary: Veet, Razors, Epilators, Plucking, Waxing Permanent or believed to be: IPL, laser, Electrology.

Question After a chat with a few people, it seems to me that when ladies start on hormones, they also start on hair retardation medication as well. I was wondering, is it possible to use that without being on the hormones as well? How does it work? How does one go about getting it? I’d […]

I gave up trying to act “manly” in any way whatsoever, as it didn’t wash with hard-case macho types, anyway. Such types would never warm to me, anyway, as I’m way too femme for any pretense of being a geezer-bloke. So being androgynous can at times be a bit polarising. Those that support us, warm […]

Reply I love being androgynous, but becoming more feminine every day! I often get called miss or madam (which I love) and my partner laughed when the other day mail for “Martha” arrived. I’ve been wearing mostly “womens” clothes for years…exclusively now for 5 years….I threw all my man clothes out a few years ago. […]

    Reply I’ve not been around for a bit due to personal stuff. But your post very must strike a cord. It’s very much what I’ve been going through for years now, having a loving and supportive wife, it’s been a long road with very big bumps along the way, taking  h r t […]

  I feel totally strong against the people who obviously aren’t on board and people who are have gone out of their way to tell me. I don’t care about how femme I present to the world. But I don’t really want to mess up my marriage. I know my kids will love me one […]

Reply I’m not bothered about breasts really. Now I’ve stopped trying to be a boy I feel amazing in myself and so much stronger. I guess the hair is the most ‘in your face” thing. Now it’s getting longer I’m getting so much love from the people I admire myself, whereas in the past I […]

Reply Reading between the lines, your run-through, how taking hormones will affect your life if you are not living full-time. Well, there are people who do. It may change your relationship with your wife even if she’s supportive, seeing changes will raise more questions for her. Taking hormones doesn’t guarantee changes like breasts, you could […]

Reply   Much of it is about striking a balance between being what you want and being concerned about how others see you. When we start our journey most of us are more worried about the reactions of others, hence the focus on ‘passing’ in one way or another. Then gradually we find our way […]

Fortunately, unfriendly attitude, coldness, and the odd insolent mirth to my face is the worst I have ever suffered, so far. However, it is in effect impossible to modulate their attitude and mindset. There’s no point even trying, so we might as well just act ourselves and not try to be something or someone else, […]

    Reply I understand that you relate to being androgynous. That’s a good default setting for anyone still exploring themselves and their life direction. Androgyny works in its own right as an image and identity, not just as a halfway house toward something more full-femme. So that comes with a lot of built-in leeways, […]

  I’m actually caring less and less about what anyone thinks. Except my wife, who is lovely and supportive… but married a boy. A) is this a reaction to being scared shitless of where I think this may be going? B) I think all my questions are A). All my other questions are pretty irrelevant, […]

Question I’ve started doing positive things recently to look more feminine. Grown my hair, getting face lasered… all fairly subtle. But I think I’ve opened Pandora’s box. I’m getting obsessed now with how I could pretend to still be a ‘normal’ guy if I do more feminizing things. I’ve lots of experience pretending to be […]

Reply I mean no offense to those of you that supply such coaching. However, having received coaching to supposedly help me as a male when I worked for the government, I found it never ever helped me cope with idiots. I have found that getting on with life to be the best outcome. On a […]

Reply It is nothing to do with being a woman, it is developing theself confidence to be yourself. As well as this it is a case of being able to cope with both the experts that will come into your life, and the pillocks too. It is about having someone who will help you develop […]

Reply You’re one brave lady…. you’ve just got on with what life has dealt you, and come out sounding and looking like a real sassy chick. As I said in my post, maybe I’ve just got to get on with it, and there isn’t any professional coaching out there to help. If so then my […]

The staff in the local beauty salon have always treated me as a female from my first appointment. Again we chat about life in general. My hairdresser, who calls at the house, has got me out of wearing my wig. The greatest help of all comes from work colleagues both male and female who remember […]

Reply I was considering some coaching in the same way as you. However, I remembered that my sister and later on my daughter were never really trained as females. They developed this side as they progressed into life. I’m almost 6 months into my real-life experience and still in the early stages of transitioning. Who […]

Question Are there any professional life coaches out there who offer help, support, and advice through the preparation for transition, transition itself, and then life in R G world? Although I am at the beginning of the road I am finding this a lonely, confusing, and overwhelming experience. My GP and counselors are generally cold […]

Reply As a herbalist myself I can attest to the usefulness of such preparations. However, they are only likely to work as a supplement to your own hormone levels, or to any you happen to be taking. These things are highly unlikely to do you any good at all unless you are already taking female […]

  Reply It may be an idea to look at the many topics under hormones in section regarding herbal preparations. All the items you quote are available at fair prices in Holland n Barrett However, you may be advised against taking these non-standard preparations.

Reply Cannabis is supposed to contain chemicals alike to female hormones. However, how true this claim is, is questionable The only one herb I know of at the moment that’s acknowledged by the medical profession is a product that is made from beer hops. The Hop plant is very rich in chemicals that closely resemble […]

Reply The jury is well and truly out on this subject If you can afford these herbs buy them. However, from what I understand, they will only have a gentle effect. It is very probable that you will spend a lot of your money and be very disappointed by the results.

Question I was on another site and found an article about the use of herbs to become more feminine. The author claimed some amazing results from taking saw palmetto, black cohosh, and soy . These results included softer skin, finer and less dark hair, as well as rounder hips. I am wary of all these […]

Reply Matalan high-leg cotton knickers ) have one of the widest gussets on the market which is useful for containing/constraining our extras. For more width and compliance, carefully cut the outer layer of the gusset away. Matalan also does a pack of 3 light control panties in three colors that also have a wide gusset […]

Reply One often-overlooked solution is to wear a swimsuit as underwear. They have a lot more control than ordinary underwear and will smooth out any unsightly bulges in the muffin-top region which can occur when you use control pants. A black plunge front, and a low back swimsuit is a very useful additions to your […]

Reply I think the answer is as individual as each girl in our community and by that, I mean every lady will have her own solution for hiding genitalia which is down to size and experience of dressing. I found learning to tuck quite tricky, to begin with, but with experience comes dexterity, So for […]

Reply I usually wear basic cotton midis from Asda, but I wish the gusset area was a tad wider to keep my bits in. Are any of the normal high street brands any better in this respect? I wear nicks full time so I don’t want anything uncomfortable or impractical. Reply I find New Look […]

Reply Wrap a few layers of tissue around your private parts. You might think this would make it bigger but in practice, it smooths out the contour and makes it less noticeable. Reply String briefs have more cover at the front while still having the cheese wire string up the crack. Triumph has got some […]

Reply I just tuck using Primark 100% cotton thongs. Works well for me although I appreciate it might not work for everyone. Reply Tend to use plain high rise knickers from Sainsbury’s or M&S. but I then cut down a pair of tights and put those on top, They keep everything tucked in and they […]

Reply nobody knows what’s going to happen to anybody besides the forlorn rags of growing old Reply I’m small and soft. Granny pants with a liner are enough. Keeps things nice and dry too Reply I usually go for a pair of shapers with something a bit more silky and feminine underneath and a pair […]

Reply Buying underwear a size too small is just going to be uncomfortable and will ruin your profile. Avoid stretchy fabrics; its a fallacy to think that they will squeeze you in, what actually happens is that you will stretch them out. A proper gaff is one solution. Another is a pair of control pants, […]

Question What underwear to you find is the best for concealing things “Up Front” shall we say. When I used to dress previously I always bought knickers one size smaller to give a flatter profile. Having returned I bought some Brazillian type but they just don’t contain things and are a tad uncomfortable. Not ready […]

Reply Speaking of which, I’m just off to get some new smelly, got a hot date on Saturday night Delivery on the fragrance direct site can take up to 10 days, so I wouldn’t advise it if you are in a hurry to get anything. But as for the High Street, I wouldn’t think that […]

Reply With the increase in perfume outlets in the shopping centre I find it a lot easier to try them now. Most outlets have the tester bottle. just ask the assistant for something along the lines you want. i.e. “I’d like something that isn’t going to follow my partner down the street but at the […]

Reply I agree that perfume is a very personal thing, but I will make a couple of comments….you get what you pay for. The bargain basement scents…are just that…something for the basement. Personally, I am not one for these new trendy scents, that seem so overwhelming…. I prefer Coco by Chanel and for a little […]

 Reply Perfume is always a very personal thing, something that smells great on one person, may reek on someone else, also everyone’s tastes are different. The best thing is to go along to a perfumery shop,, plenty of them around,,, tell them basically what kind of scent you are looking for ( ie the vanilla) […]

 Question Well, you know, the smell of Old Spice doesn’t really cut it ;-). Can anyone recommend a perfume that doesn’t require a mortgage to buy, but which is fairly light and pleasant smelling with maybe a hint of vanilla (no jokes please!  or musk to it. (Yeah, I know, musk can be fairly heavy […]

i have been wearing false nails since xmas. I get mine from www.byvixi.com who actually do next-day delivery if ordered before 3 pm. And they do arrive the next day. I have quite large hands and i have found the large coffin nails work well for my finger shape. There are 10 sizes, 50 of […]

I’ve found a couple of reasons why glued nails come off. The first is that, because they are usually curved more than your nail bed, you don’t use enough glue to fill the gap fully. Add plenty of glue over the whole nail surface, and press the nail down hard until it’s fully set. The […]

But yes, keeping them shaped and tidy is more important than length. I’ve tried growing them really long, but they are much more prone to breaking, then you end up with one that looks much shorter which is rubbish. I’ve found how long is a manageable length for me now anyway. During the summer I’ve […]

I realise that many years ago about growing my own instead. I just could not adapt to false ones and found them troublesome too. The key to your own nails is really to look after them and keep them clean, regular use of nail clippers and especially a file is a must to keep them […]

I’ve not tried the pre-glued ones, but I have used the sticky pads, from I think Nailene or Eyelure. They actually stick very firmly, I’ve had a set last me for a few days and they can be quite hard to remove. But if they do decide to come off, then pressing them back on […]

Where’s the happy medium? Eyelashes go on when you apply them and stay on until you actively remove them. I want some nails that I can control when they come off, without having to melt the damn things to crap in a glass full of acetone. I have found some that come with strips of […]

Having a full manicure at a salon is so enjoyable on many counts. I have found that false nails are either: 1. The pre-glued press-on ones eg from H&M, which are ok for wearing out if you dont do anything hugely fiddly with them. Rummaging in my purse for a lighter, or engaging in any […]

Same here. I used to bite mine very very short but now I have long nails naturally. They started to break at first but I have found rounding the corners off and using OPI nail envy strengthener has worked miracles. They no longer break and I have to file them as they get too long. […]

It’s easier if you grow your own. I used to be a terrible nail-biter but I started growing them 7 years ago. Doesn’t work for everyone due to the nature of their jobs, but my job is all done on a computer. I’ve had a few people mention my nails but I just tell them […]

like above i get packs from superdrug but of late Boots has come up trumps for me ,  male nails tend to be flatter but I’m not using extra large sizes just the standard female ones in-store, and find they fit really well, and  with good glue rather than the included tiny tubes of shite […]

Can anyone recommend a source of false nails on the high street? I’m having the usual problem, I suspect, of male hand and fingers being wider than female hands/fingers and the last set I bought was too narrow, especially on my thumb. High street sources are preferred as these I can look at, online could […]

Reply I thought about this very question a couple of years ago. I questioned how much time I’d ‘have left to carry on. Now I realize it’s something that will always be with me, I’ll never let go. I was inspired by an incredible lady I met at an event one time who was 70 […]

Reply Many of us may dwell on age and getting older, it is quite a common trait regardless of gender. But worrying about age can have a damaging effect on our lives too, busy worrying can lead to not enjoying and being happy with ourselves. Never too old to still love the things you love. […]

Reply Having visited London clubs in the past like Sweet Wednesday and Legs I can confirm the majority of girls were ladies in their fifties and up, sometimes you could even see white-haired ladies who must have been in their seventies. Reply Well, I’m 67 and can never see myself being able to stop, quite […]

Reply I don’t know whether to be offended or perhaps put this down to a badly phrased question. It has been previously posted Be a wrinkly old grandad. Or a stylish, if wrinkly T granny. My choice has been made, I ain’t hanging up my bra any time soon. Age is just a number. If […]

  Reply Hi Sarah you look fabulous so any retirement on your part will be society’s loss. Ultimately it is your choice and I don’t have enough of your personal circumstances to guide you one way or the other. However, I will say I turned 52 yesterday and these last two years as Debbie have […]