Reply I’m into my seventies but still enjoying the thrill of being dressed, if you choose your wardrobe, makeup with care and not turn out as mutton dressed as mutton you will still look attractive, so what are a few lines, how about Sophia Loren and the late Honor Blackman?  

Reply Thanks all of you for your contributions, all looking amazing which makes me feel good I guess I’m not getting my attic back for a while but I might stay off the heels until I get my new hip

Reply Do what you want but I’ve got no intention of retiring any activity I enjoy as long as I am able to do it. Why give up something you enjoy if you don’t have to? Alternatively, if age is a worry for you, why not consider packing it all in now, just to be […]

Reply There is no retirement. The dressing does not go away. You can try to fight it but you will be back to dressing. You’ll be just as old as a guy. Reply you will know when its time to retire, I am 60 and still enjoying it. Reply We don’t get older. It’s just […]

Reply The world at large is only just discovering Lucy, I hope they are ready for whats coming, I’m now 53. Keep going my lovelies there’s loads more fun to be had.

Question I’m heading quickly towards the big 50 and I always wonder if there will be a time to ‘retire’ Sarah. I don’t want to be an old wrinkly T granny. How old would you say is too old??

Reply This is a very clever question. It has made me stop to think. However, given the choice of the two pills, I too would take the pill to change me permanently.

Reply My wife asked me “if I put two pills on the table, One which would cure me of my urge to dress, The other will completely change me into the woman I wish to be, Which one would I choose? Personally, I would choose the one to change me. However, for families, children, herself […]

Reply We all go through the feelings, mentioned in this article I know I keep pushing the 5 layer gender model. However, it is the only thing that I have found that got anywhere near giving me some idea about myself. One of the big problems in Western civilization, which is only seeing two sexes […]

You have to consider the total upheaval of your day-to-day life, work, relationships, friends, family, health, and so on. Ultimately I guess it’s what you need to do for a settled mind. But you should speak to a qualified counselor first. Maybe read up on the psychology of transition, as well as the different levels […]

I’ve been seeing a counselor about this but she seems out of her depth. The counselor is costing me a fortune and not coming up with any viable solutions. The nearest decent counselor from here is in Southampton. However, this was too far to travel on a regular basis. My mood can swing from happy […]

Reply I get like that sometimes, I can dress when and how often I like, This is most days. However, there are always those occasions when it would make life awkward For example, when picking up my son from school, for I throw some drab over the top and clean off the makeup. The reason […]

Question I need to know what I am. Ive been cross-dressing for years, however, not that seriously. I have always wanted to get more into it and I find these days I am doing so. However, it never seems to be enough and I want more. I am so envious of my wife now yet […]

Reply So,,,,,,,, did you ever come to a conclusion about why you’re doing whatever it is that you are doing? Somehow I suspect that conclusion would be that you’re not really doing anything particularly. Not doing, just being. Being yourself, being the only person you can be. Sometimes a little self-analysis can be a good thing.

Reply I totally agree about using a top coat. I’m currently using a Sally Hansen top coat which I originally bought to go with one of their nail varnishes. I’ve used it with other brands of nail varnish though and it’s really good, although I tend to apply another layer of it 2 or 3 […]

Reply I used to take ages with nail varnish too but now have a reasonable sequence. The day before I go out, I apply it in the afternoon. I let it dry for about 15 minutes then apply a good topcoat. Then in the evening, I shower as usual, which generally gets most of the […]

Reply It is about living as I am. I think my generation was brought up transphobic, and a little is nesting in here. Reply I was thinking along vaguely the same lines earlier this year about foundation, haven’t used it since, and no one’s ever noticed. My makeup time is now down to about 10 […]

We can all only be ourselves, our true selves that we perceive ourselves to be, not what anyone else may feel we should be. Whether that is just about the morning ritual of applying foundation or about the way you live your life generally, “you do you”….. only you have the right to decide what that involves […]

Reply When you ask “why am I doing this?” What exactly do you mean by ‘this’? The foundation? Well, do you feel it makes you look the way you wish to? Does that look make you feel happy, contented, at ease with yourself? If so, then you’ve kind of answered your own question. Or do […]

Reply I thought thinking might be best kept for the serious forum …. but then again, having joined a few conversations there recently, may be not. Anyway, overthinking a thing rarely improves the quality or reliability of the thought. Another thing I learned too late in life is that thoughts affect your feelings. It’s possible […]

Reply Did you have similar thoughts this morning? My thoughts were that I should have put on my slap before starting work but I was late getting up. I kept popping back upstairs to shower, put my slap on, etc. in between work and I’m presentable now

Question Was half way through my foundation this morning when “Why  am I doing this?” I decided not to over analyze, persevered, and am now sitting with my coffee, happily enough. Not every thought needs to be followed through?

Reply It depends upon what you want to radiate as a persona. As well as the environment in which you find yourself. A softly spoken dark and tobacco ruined voice is not unusual in some quarters and can blend very readily into the background. Perhaps if the voice cannot match the look, then it might […]

Reply I know there are lots of websites that cover this subject, but the best advice I had was from another Tgirl. She simply advised me to ‘feel’ where my voice came from and try to ‘lift it up’. She explained that didn’t mean speaking deliberately higher or squeekier. but trying to feel your voice […]

However, this brings me to the bad point. It takes hours, days, weeks, months of a real slog. You often feel faint, feeling that perhaps you are doing it wrong). As well as this, you can feel out of breath and discombobulated. But all I can say is it has been worth it. I am […]

Reply This was one of my biggest worries. Getting my voice to sound more female is now my priority for the year… I even ordered at the local Indian yesterday in my female voice, so things are looking up. It is simply terrible to feel one is close to passing, only to realize that any […]

A woman’s ‘diction’ or clarity of speech is normally much better than a male’s. Me. I used to spend a lot of time talking English to foreigners. I Had to be slower, very clear, and not use slang. It helps now and my voice is mid-range, not high. I have never had a funny look […]

     Reply A few thoughts for you: Women speak with more rhythm, males with a monotone. Women smile more and use their hands. A ‘false’ high voice sounds just that. Women speak more softly, That is from the top of the lungs, Not from the diaphragm. Unless they are holding a conversation with you […]

Question It’s the one big worry I have, that I sound like a bloke, regardless of what I look like. I live in a house of flats, and was once outside having a ciggie when a man came to see a relative in another flat. He said hi to me, and all I did was […]

Reply I have the strangest feeling that this just might not be as difficult as you imagine. I feel that your friend already suspects Gemma Lou’s existence. If she indeed does, half the battle is already won. Let’s face it, what you would like to confess isn’t exactly the crime of the century. You haven’t […]

Reply One of the developments in coming out to Anita is that yesterday we had a girly day out shopping together. We found a nice women’s clothes shop in Walton with some lovely tops which we both liked. The upshot was that we selected atop which we both liked and retired to try it on. […]

I am lucky in that sense because a couple of years ago I created a website that was part vanity project and part an attempt to put down my own thoughts about the whole TG thing. Pen found it really useful to fill in some of my sometimes incoherent explainations. We are now actually in […]

From that point, Trisha has been part of our lives in a way that I’d never anticipated. The chief difference being the very close and genuine friendships we’ve formed that go beyond the bounds of Onlinw. These are the things that have ‘coming out’ worthwhile and, have made the inevitable palatable. Just another couple of […]

The Sukie connection is interesting. This is not only because Sukie’s a very much valued friend to Pen and I,  but because meeting another close friend face to face for the first time (in this particular case, Saskia) was a major step in accepting the fact that I was relating to real people rather than […]

  Reply   One of Pen’s chief worries last August, when she finally discovered my predilections, was that I would, given the freedom to be Trisha, after all these years, become less of the man that she knew and married. For a while that went hand in hand with minor insecurity about the possibility that […]

She liked him in his male mode and, she could see that he was an important part of my life. It is a difficult call. The “third person” could be the catalyst or the reason for the original relationship to fall apart. This is just the account of my recent coming out. I know that […]

She liked him in his male mode and, she could see that he was an important part of my life. It is a difficult call. The “third person” could be the catalyst or the reason for the original relationship to fall apart. This is just the account of my recent coming out. I know that […]

Anyone who is considering ” coming out ” should take an introspective look at their relationship with their partner. If the relationship is close, it is easier than if you have somehow gone your separate ways while sharing the same bed and, living in the same house. A strong relationship will survive the shock. However, […]

Everything was fine. However, the following morning my wife wanted a sit-down talk. She kindly but firmly stated that if I was going to be Caroline and go out as Caroline she would accept it. However, this was on the condition that any time spent as Caroline, would have to be compensated by my time […]

I have over the past months made no secret that I wanted to go to the BNO one month and, that Suki would lend me the clothes. This October was to be the target. However, it did not plan out that way. I contacted another t girlfriend Jan and suggested we went to Stunners on […]

    Reply Caroline came out of the closet this month. We have been married thirty-seven years and the children have flown the nest. Both of us have interests and to some extent seem to do our own thing. One of my best friends is Suki She has become a friend of the family So […]

Reply Thanks for the help so far girls, I’m hoping to do it this week, but I’m terrified. Expecting those questions that you said like are you gay? I really want her to be part of this and help me through it. It has taken me a long time to accept it myself. However, now […]

3. This discussion is going to be about her reaction to you as much as you yourself. Its worth anticipating how she may react – but sometimes the things partners react to are not what you’d expect. The “normal” questions include are you gay, do you want to transition, do you want to embarrass me […]

  Reply There is no best way and no magic formula This is one of those really big topics that ultimately boil down to a matter of personal judgment. For what it’s worth, however, I recommend the following… 1. Do not rush it just because you feel frustrated. The likelihood is, in any event, that […]

She realized I still loved her as much, if not more now everything was in the open. There would be no more hiding clothing and makeup from her. I now help her around the house, Cleaning Fully dressed as Lisa Maria My wife now even buys clothing for me. This is how far I have […]

  Reply You must love your present partner to leave your family for her. If your relationship is a solid one, you must tell her about your need to be Gemma. I told my wife years ago whilst we were having a nice meal together. She was very relaxed when I told her about Lisa […]

Question I need some help if possible. Im new on here and have a big problem. I am currently living with someone and I really want to tell her about gemma properly. I kind of mentioned it before we moved in together. My new partner took it ok, However, I don’t think she understands that […]

In general, as your skin ages, you will not be able to do detailed work like cat’s eye flicks, as your skin simply won’t hold this level of definition, so no matter how many videos you try, you won’t get the same result! The other health warning is that these videos are made for the […]

Reply There are a few health warnings if you watch youtube. The first is that most of the people demonstrating are fairly young. This makes it much easier for them to apply products uniformly You will see things like sweeping and wiping actions for spreading and blending. Many of us are much older and these […]

Basics. Reddish or tan Concealer first over the beard area. Then lighter concealer under the eyes, corners of nose, creases to the mouth. Then Foundation. Then dark contouring powder under cheekbones and on temples. Then Highlighting powder on Cheekbones. Finish with Blush and setting powder. Eyes darker in outer corners lighter shade on the lid. […]

Reply Surf youtube. Watch what others do buy a few things and practice. I went the makeover route However, most of mine is not the high-end Mac stuff they used but Rimmel, and other brands readily available in the supermarket. The Pros do it perfectly but I’m happy enough with my hamfisted results.

you can always add things like contouring, blush, and so on when you’ve done the rest. Other people have their own suggestions they have their own routines for what works for them. There really is no single way of doing it. For advice on how to apply, look up Wayne Goss on Youtube. Of all […]

  Most people use a foundation brush to apply foundation but I’m a rebel and like to do my own thing . I find if I slap my face it leaves a pretty even coverage and good enough texture not to need a brush. It also helps me to wake up in the morning. Also, […]

I prefer a bigger brush for eye shadow but the one in the palette will mean you don’t have to buy a brush. Kohl pencil for eyeliner. Other eyeliner options are available but I found this one easiest, especially below the eyes. Liquid liner is fun but be prepared to blind yourself while you are […]

Mascara is pretty easy to apply and I’m currently using a Maybelline Falsies lash lift Mascara that I got from a supermarket. Personally, I don’t bother with false eyelashes as my own are pretty long anyway. For lippy, I normally use Maybelline Matte Ink as they stay on pretty well. Maybelline Superstay 24 hour is […]

I had my makeup done this year and the makeup artist used Dermacol and Illamasqua foundation The results were very long-lasting leaving my face smooth all day. I’m trying Dermacol on its own at the moment with just face powder over the top and it covers stubble really well. I’ve been very impressed with Dermacol […]

Reply To get the right shade of foundation you could go to Boots and ask for a color match. Makeup counter staff have always been very helpful when I’ve asked them for assistance, even in drab so don’t worry about going to them for help. It’s really important to get the foundation right and while […]

  Reply If you really need to keep the budget down, then see if there is a beauty discount store in your area. They tend to be in the lower-end shopping malls or even markets. We have them in Liverpool, Bury, Fleetwood, I think they may be a local chain. Places like this have things […]

Reply You could just go into any Pound shop, spend no more than ten pounds on whatever you fancy trying out from their make-up display, and then go home and play with it. Make sure you get some make-up wipes to clean off the mess afterward! I’m not saying you’ll end up with the look […]

Reply Can totally concur with all comments but the most important thing is to practice, practice, practice and when you’ve done, practice some more, after all, it’s how ciswomen learn! Lots of fun, lots of errors are usual. That lippy doesn’t go with the eyeshadow or overdid it again. Common mistakes will always be made […]

Reply I only started half a year ago. Got a Superdrug advent calendar gift set (last year’s model) off Ebay, then bought more bits as I learned. Some of the set was good, some weren’t, but overall a decent way to start. Have fun and make a mess, it’s all learning. Eyeliner and the area […]

I use a cheap one from Revolution which works fine. Morphe eye shadow, one of the 9-color ones, I like Painted Desert. Don’t skimp on eye shadows or you will have problems blending Kiko liquid liner – the version with the long brush Sleek cream contour kit Any cheap blush palette, try to avoid pink […]

If you’re on a tight budget you could try scavenging the makeup section in TK Maxx, they often have some good stuff reduced. I had some Morphe palettes from them, half price, a few weeks ago. My minimum kit, i f I was on a budget, would be Maybelline foundation, make sure it matches Max […]

Reply We’ve had this question quite a few times, it shows how much opinions vary. A simple way is to go for a makeover and use those products, although many artists use higher-end stuff, so you could end up paying over the odds, especially when you factor in the other tools you need like brushes, […]

Question I am hoping that someone can offer some advice and guidance around trying make up for the first time. What is the minimum makeup I need to have and what would you recommend to use or buy. As it will all be new to me I want to start with a small budget until […]

Where are you and where do you want to be? You almost certainly don’t know and don’t have the experience you need to answer the question. So your next few years are going to be very interesting. If you don’t answer these questions then you will spend the rest of your life wishing you had. […]

Reply I disagree. LGBT places can be great to make your first steps outside if you’re not used to it. I live near Manchester and I’ve had many happy evenings socialising up with other girls around Canal Street. I made some good friends there and it’s nice to know that there are other girls like […]

Reply One more thing. It may best not to attend LGBT-friendly places. That will mark you as a tranny. Go to places normal women go- grocery store, big box, bars during the day.

Reply There’s no point just wishing for it to happen though, you have to make things happen if you want them. It took me until I was 49 years old to actually go outdoors in a dress during the day and I wish I had done it years before now. A makeover would show you […]

Reply No one in their right mind goes out wearing latex in the day unless they’re attention-seeking. I think you’re at that difficult crossroads where you haven’t yet separated your desire to present as female from your sexuality. It’s tricky because the two do overlap a lot. Many of us come into it from a […]

Reply The best advice I can give about going out dressed is dress to blend in. Do not dress in anything wild that will make you stand out from the crowd, This includes make-up. How many women do you see going down your local high street in 6 inch stiletto thigh-length boots and a leather […]

People in the BDSM scene generally wouldn’t bat an eyelid at someone in a dress and a beard if that’s how you want to dress. Another good option would be to book a makeover. You say you won’t pass but it’s amazing what a bit of makeup can do. If you wanted to go outdoors […]

I had facial hair when I was younger but I was well and truly in the closet back then. Like yourself, I longed to go outdoors dressed but only ever did one late night drive back then. It got me down eventually and I stopped dressing for quite some time. I’m femme pretty much every […]

Reply I suppose it depends what clothes you want to wear. Normally I’d say just go out and do it. However you say you haven’t been clean-shaven for many years so is your facial hair important? If you’re going for the full femme look then facial hair will draw attention to yourself. Plenty of people […]

Question   My name is Will and I have been secretly cross-dressing for many years. In my last relationship, it was something I had to hide because she didn’t like it. Fast forward to my new relationship. the person I’m with now is so excepting and supportive to the point she even encourages me to […]

Reply I came out last year, I feel transfeminine, knew I was a girl from an early age, and had to do something before I took my life. It had got to that point. I am not sure if I am non-binary or a woman, non-binary wasn’t a term I had heard until relatively recently […]

Reply So you’ve made the first step with having a makeover and you look fabulous. I went through my childhood knowing something was not right, but it took another 40 ish years to finally discover the real me. back in the 70s I’d have been beaten up for dressing as a girl my town, so […]

Regarding what to wear, it’s really up to you as long as you don’t look out of place. While I agree that lots of women wear jeans, you state on your profile that you like dresses and skirts so if you’re more comfortable wearing those then that’s perfectly ok as long as they are suitable […]

If you drive then you could put fuel in the car dressed as it doesn’t take long and you could to pay ay the pump if you preferred. Other things you could do is order a takeaway and receive it femme, go out and pick up a takeaway, do a bit of shopping at the […]

A lot of events are just social meetings in pubs so as you say you’re looking for friendship and a chat this might suit you and you could go drab first. T-girl events like Leeds First Friday are popular so look out for those and again, you could go drab first while you’re finding your […]

  In my case I’m into the BDSM scene so I went to a couple of events femme first. I have some good friends in the scene who I knew wouldn’t judge me and I could trust them for honest feedback on what they thought when they first saw me. The feedback was really good […]

Reply Confusion about gender identity is quite common with people. If the closet is feeling more like a prison now then you need to break out of it for sure. Been there, done that, wished I’d done it years before. I was 49 when I first started going out in public regularly. I’ve felt I […]

Reply Thank you all for your advice, I have had these thoughts, feeling for many years and I do feel very confused these days. I have just started counseling in the hope I can understand all these things. Without boring people, I am struggling with my gender identity I find it hard to put a […]

Reply So you need to work out what you hope to achieve and what your worries/fears are. You may well find that dressing as a real girl (in jeans/trainers and a baggy top) but with padding/lingerie underneath enables you to feel real, and is probably most likely to result in “passing”. The other advice given […]

Reply Start by going out in the the world. You could go to support groups or trans events, have a makeover to get you off the ground. I’d build your confidence in yourself and establish where you want to go with this. Maybe leave the androgynous well alone unless that is you. Do the coming […]

  It certainly wasn’t for me but you do need to be sure and be ready for come what may. Know what you want to come out as. I’m in my 50’s but feel I would have come out a lot younger if there were the vocabulary and understanding of spectrums of gender and sexuality […]

I felt it at the end of last year and came out to family and friends the first half of this year. It is a great relief to feel you no longer have to hide who you are and I’ve been very lucky to only have positive experiences so far. That isn’t everyone’s story though […]

Crossdresser, transvestite, or a host of other labels might better describe how you feel. On a daily basis just dress how you want to dress and if that is more feminine today and more masculine tomorrow that is OK. Who you feel you are on the inside is always valid no matter how you present […]

Reply There are no rules. Certainly, no rule that says if you come out you have to start presenting in a certain way. What do you want to come out to people as? Labels are good for other people to help them understand the new you but can be difficult to pick between. You can […]

Question I have been in the closet for many years, now in my 50’s and I dress occasionally I really want to come out of the closet. I am wondering how to express myself on a daily basis, do I dress androgynous or female? Never dressed fully and always in secret If you have any […]

Reply It’s up to you. For me good time to cut my hair will be in crematorium one thing is true men like long hair doesn’t matter what.

Reply I’m 55, my hair is and has pretty much always been long. It’s also always down when I’m drab, never a ponytail, as it’s not my style. No one ever comments badly or questions about it as I guess everyone is used to me with long hair. Length of hair and style is and […]

Reply I used to wear a wig that almost came to my shoulders but over lockdown and before I’ve let my own hair grow so it now almost reaches my breasts. Looking after it is a bit of a pain as it is thin and won’t hold a style without hairspray but the fact that […]

Reply No, it’s just a case of personal preference. My mum always had short hair but my great gran’s was really long. My ex had short hair but her mum’s was long. Based on these 2 examples there’s no reason why older ladies shouldn’t have long hair. It all comes down to personal preference really […]

Reply I’ve always used short wigs, I started at 52 and they worked for me then and still do. I think a lot of girls see long hair as a symbol of femininity, but in practice if a style doesn’t suit you then it just doesn’t work and that’s it, irrespective of your age. A […]

Just wondering of thoughts of age (if any) to give up the long locks and go short? I am 52 and for all my time dressing (Blimey over 30yrs+) I’ve had long hair and loved it, but also spent a fortune over that time on wigs as they don’t last forever for sure and the […]

If I still lived at home with my mum I am sure I would still have my own life, come and go as I pleased within reason. This would be done whilst respecting my mum’s lifestyle, I would still also have my own privacy too. How come you don’t seem to have that? I am […]

Reply I can fully appreciate the need to look after an aged and infirm parent. It is indeed it is a terrible challenge that requires the patience of a saint, and the determination of a devil. If the original poster was in that situation I would be more sympathetic. However, she is not All that […]

My mother was totally on her own and someone had to keep an eye on her. After she recovered from that one, one complaint after the other popped up over a period of ten years. This ended with me running around with buckets of puke and pee and poo, getting no sleep and carrying her […]

Reply Stuff happens in people’s lives, one can get into these situations quite easily and it’s far more common than you may think. Why do people have to be ridiculed for showing little responsibility for an aging parent I initially landed back at my mother’s place after losing the squatted house I was living in […]

Reply I would like to ask How many 35-year-olds, trans or not, live with their retired mothers when they remain agile and compos mentis? I know your circumstances were different, and I know you had your own personal problems to deal with.

Reply You are right it will limit my femme life, yes I sulk behind her back when I can not get my knickers and nylons on I also become very aggressive as well as I become suppressed and cannot express myself through my femme attire I am not looking for pity here, I have a […]

Reply I’m getting the impression that you’re not really looking for answers, just some general hand-wringing and sympathy. Anyway, there is no answer You are doomed to a life of sculking around behind her back, waiting till she goes to the shops or bingo before you can dress, and generally limiting your femme life.

Reply My mother has no understanding as to why I like to dress. However, it is all right for her to do as she pleases and expects everyone to fall into line. She should respect me for who I am a  TG person and tolerate it even if she can not accept it. Buying or […]

Reply With your reference to your mother there must be some bitterness here, This bitterness can only increase with time. Don’t blame your mum for your chosen lifestyle. Who owns the house? If she does, then why wait till you’re 34 to move out? Get your own place then you can do what you want. […]

Reply Yes, I do have a fulltime job I’m 34 soon to be 35 but you are right leaving is the only option. However like I say she questions everything I do If she thinks something is wrong then she will question it I do want to leave but i want to move in with […]

Reply Once again The question remains Do you have a job? How old are you? If you honestly can’t explain to your own mother that you feel it’s time you got your own place and started supporting yourself then you need to sort yourself out. Your mother has probably worked hard for a number of […]

Reply I know people like to have some fun and yes so do i but I needed serious input on this question I do not have time for wisecracks. Yes, leaving home seems to be the only option. However, how do explain why when I have been living with my mother for ten years? Plus […]

Reply Was in a similar situation years ago. The difference was, my mom fell ill and I couldn’t leave. I spent years looking after her and it ruined half my life. Sometimes you are not given the choice……. By the time I got some of my freedom back, I was 40 and half my life […]

Reply Might be helpful if you offered a bit more information. Is it your or your mother’s home? Do you currently have a job or are unemployed? While moving in with another TV might sound good they’d still want you to pay rent. Also, you might actually want to know the person you’re moving in […]

Reply 1. tell your mum that you will be able to retire earlier if you dress from now to retirement as a woman 2. hide the lightbulbs! 3. get her sectioned ( bit drastic though) 4. move! 5. build your own lil tranny shack at the end of the garden and ban her on punishment […]

Reply What you need to do is find an activity she likes, such as dancing or dare i say bingo, you know the sort of thing. Like everyone else, she will get bored staying in all the time, This may give you a couple of days a week where she is out enjoying herself, and […]

Question I have a big problem coming my way. At the beginning of next year my Mother is set on retiring from her job. This is ok by me, but it means she will be at home more of the time if not all the time. This means my femme time will be totally banished. […]

After a certain time, I recognized, that my Lady was not available for me on certain evenings, sometimes even longer.   When She was back I recognised that she had very often a new necklace or a new ring.   Slowly I understood, how She was securing her lifestyle.   She had some “friends”, who […]

Another part of Her education was that She started to punish me when I did something stupid.   So for example She was fixing my CD very strongly and gave me Viagra.   I needed to wear shoes with the 5″ heels and sometimes higher.   Then I was forced to walk around.   Once […]

I started to love all these things and got more and more under Her magic spell.   I did not to want to miss anything of it anymore and got fully will-less to her.     Time went and Her behavior started to change.   She forced me to take over all her homework.   […]

She was treating me now more and more as a woman.   She taught me how to behave as a woman and I got instructions, how to sit, walk and also eat.   She did all this in a very kindly manner.   She was very patient with me.   If I did everything correctly, […]

I learned how to do my make-up and got asked to do this shortly after I arrived. I got 5″ high heels in which She trained me to walk.   I started to like my transformation and the feeling of wearing all these nice and beautiful things.   I felt more and more very feminine. […]

The next time I visited her She always prepared another part of female clothes for me.   She was dressing me step by step more and more in a female style     After again some time I needed to shave my legs, my arms, and my body completely.   She bought me skirts and […]

She told me, that She had never thought about how less is necessary to get a feminine look.   A bit of makeup would be needed to complete it. She recognized that I got very excited and that I liked this very much.     Some time later She had bought some undies for me. […]

After a certain time, She came back to this issue and told me that She could not find out the reasons just by reading about it.   Therefore She proposes to run an experiment and what I would think about it. I agree, that this would be an excellent idea.     Now She told […]

I had known a beautiful Lady for many years.   When i got divorced some years ago She helped me a lot and we got very close friends.   She let me forget my previous wife.   We had a lot of discussions about many different things.   One evening we talked about cross-dressing and […]

You can also look at fashion tips. Wear slightly wider shoulder straps if you have wide shoulders. Don’t get anything that draws your eyes to the shoulders or upper arms. A belt will also pull you in and make an eye-catching distraction from your shoulders. Also, try different poses, Look at genetic girls, they tend […]

Reply Just try on loads of size 16 dresses. If you are shy, order online from somewhere with a free returns policy, that you can just drop off in the post office. You will find one that feels comfy on top and doesn’t drown you underneath, Also go for a floaty material, I E  silk […]

Reply Some shops on eBay will make you a dress to fit if you give them your measurements. The other thing I would suggest is to buy a simple size 16 dress, and take it in round the waist and hips yourself. This does mean investing in a sewing machine and an instructional book. However, […]

Reply I wear separates almost all of the time. I do wear a dress very occasionally. The trick lies in the style. The one I like best has a fairly well-fitted top with a flaring skirt. This seems to work as if you’re a little skinny in the hip and bottom area, it doesn’t appear […]

Reply I’m a size 12 bottom and 16 top and have no problems getting the “posh” look of a dress with a two-piece arrangement. Have a look in the catalogs because these often show matching tops and skirts. These can then be bought in different sizes.

Question I wonder if anyone can help with some advice, please? I’m a size 12 skirt, but a size 16 top. Normally I buy separate skirts and tops in the respective sizes and have no problems. I find dresses difficult. a size 14 is not a suitable compromise and a 12 is too tight at […]

Reply  I can fully understand you wanting things to work things out amicably with your wife. After I came out of the closet, my wife accepted me being a tranny and told me to bring my clothes out of hiding. Unfortunately, things went wrong when she realized how much femme clothing I had. It got […]

However, hopefully, we can bring things to an end amicably and are currently in counseling to achieve this. The other important reason is that I work on a freelance basis. This means I have no protection in employment law from discrimination. However, as time goes on that becomes less important. So I live a pretty […]

Reply  Unfortunately, I haven’t started my RLE yet – it’s something I’ve been putting off for 6 months or so. There are a number of reasons However, most important to me is the relationship I have with my wife. I love her dearly and as she is totally unaccepting of me being TS. we have […]

Reply  I used to use the same hairdresser as my ex-wife. I never thought it was weird at all then and never did a hairdresser comment. As I got older my hair got thinner and just does not look good whatever I do to it. About five years ago I cut it all off and […]

  Guess most salons are quite easygoing. Just say you want to wear it long, but occasionally tie it back. The important thing is to get it thinned and layered so that you don’t look like a guy with long thick hair. Then work your own style when it is down. Invest in a Braun […]

Reply  Arrived at aged mum’s on Saturday for the weekend’s do-gooding visit. Her second sentence was “Your hair looks just like a girl’s”. Her last but one on my leaving this morning: “When are you going to get your hair cut?” So I guess her opening remarks were not meant to be a compliment Guess […]

Reply    If it’s any help I have my hair cut in a totally feminine style. I wear it no differently whether at work as a male or out with friends as Sarah. I’ve been terrified all my life of growing my hair but now I have done it no one really says anything. If […]

Reply  I introduced a friend of mine to her hairdresser who is a friend of mine. She has her hair cut beautifully and to be honest in a totally feminine cut  – complete with streaks. My friend hasn’t yet transitioned at work, However, I do know she does put her hair in a ponytail on […]

This can be provided by your GP. endo approves it bearing in mind your pre-existing health conditions. Consider extensions if you can afford them However, you need to be budgeting for quite a substantial amount of money every 6 to 7 weeks. This is not so good if your income isn’t high. Tresemme is over-rated […]

Reply  . Use a good salon-only volumizing shampoo followed by a volumizing conditioner. Matrix Amplify Volumising System is good but the best is Matrix Biolage. All bottles are of a reasonable price range but a little goes a long way. Then use, a volumizing mousse – L’Oreal makes Matrix products actually. Go for a wavy […]

Reply  I’ll get hold of some and give it a try. Yesterday I went out for the first time without a wig and found that fewer people tended to stare at me. Natural hair obviously looks better than a wig. Off to a wedding, this afternoon followed by the reception and then the reception for […]

  Reply  My girlfriend had that problem. She tried a lot of different hair-thickening shampoos. However, she did not rate them too highly. Volumizing mousses that you put on after you have washed and conditioned can work Try loreal volumizing mousse or root boost, Although they all do pretty much the same thing

Reply  I’ve now got to the point that I can leave the wig off and want to go without it as often as possible. However, my hair is fairly thin although I do have a reasonable crop. What I would like to know is if anyone has come across a hair-thickening shampoo/conditioner that really works.

Reply  Perhaps the easiest thing to do is to go to a hairdresser and explain your situation. Maybe you can ask if they can style your hair to look feminine. But at the same time keep the length so you can tie it back in a ponytail. This has worked for me over a period […]

Question This is a question to any budding hairstylist out there. Please can you help me, My own hair is now at the stage of cut or style. If I cut my hair I  can then continue with the wigs. However, as now hair has got shoulder length stuffing it under a wig is getting […]

  Reply I love tall women. I can’t help it. Last year, I went out with my girlfriend and two of her friends. They were both well over six feet, and not macho. Really gorgeous, curvy, and facially stunning. I sat between them at dinner and thought I’d just die in delight. I then heard […]

Reply From a personal point of view, I think I’d add: 3) She’s fanciable. Also, being 6ft 2in I’d say that you shouldn’t try to make yourself look shorter than you are. No slouching etc. It makes your height even more obvious if you do.

So in short – don’t stress … if you make the effort you won’t get clocked. If people start staring cos you’ve got hair coming out at all angles or something, it’s not an invasion of your femininity. If they do clock you as male, as long as you’re not wearing full body PVC then […]

However, once you get used to the fact that people will stare because you are tall and not because you are TS or a man in drag, You will become a lot more comfortable. I once saw a woman at a bus stop (and that I can still remember this speaks volumes) who must have […]

  I’ve been talking to a few people lately and I wrote the following in a message. I thought it may give pause for thought to a few others, For this reason, I am posting it… Being 6′ 3″ or whatever is not the disadvantage that you may think. There are a lot of very […]

When Sandra looked up she saw Nick had disappeared, so she got up and wandered out the main door. She saw him leaning up against a column staring into space so she walked over to him. “You ok?” “No,” came the reply, “I’m actually very angry. I just remembered what my friends in Teabban showed […]

Sandra sat down with one mother who was holding a baby. She was quietly crying. “Don’t cry, what’s wrong?” Sandra asked in a comforting voice “My baby is sick. The doctor says he can’t do anything. They don’t have the necessary drugs to treat her.” Nick looked at the mother and saw that she loved […]

The problem this and the other public hospitals have is that the medical supply corporations price the drugs at the point that if you don’t have medical insurance you don’t get the treatments. The kid we saw when we walked in suffers from leukemia, and his parents can’t really afford the drugs and treatment, but […]

  The drive to the hospital that was located south of the factory complex took only ten minutes but the route ran through one of the many slums and past one of the Free Fire Zones; where law and order was in the hands of the local gangs. Sandra pulled up just outside the A&E […]

“What happened after the accident?” “The corporation apologized and paid a pittance to us. They did offer to school us both and pay for our college, but our aunt and uncle weren’t looking for that. They needed a lump sum to make sure that they could support us. It’s one of the reasons why Paul […]

“What is this place?” Nick asked. “This place belongs to the corporation your father works for and the reason why my mum and dad are dead. The bastards higher up the chain of management kept the money back to be spent on Health and Safety, to increase the bottom line, to a point where an […]

“I never knew about this. This is horrible,” replied Nick as his eyes took everything Sandra showed him in. Sandra was right he realized. He was a warrior; a warrior for the people not the corporations which he would have joined if he had not been offered the chance to disappear. After driving for about […]

The streets Sandra drove them through en route to the first place she wanted to show Nick were very dirty; not like the streets in Central Downtown or the Corporate Enclaves. Most corners had either people down on their luck, streetwalkers, or the homeless. Some had groups of youths. Most of the shops were either […]

Sandra then switched the lights on, pulled the clutch, dropped the gears into first, then throttled up and pulled the bike out and up the darkened driveway and left onto the minor side street where the house was located. The road was lined with houses similar to the Patterson’s made from either prefab or breeze […]

The bike Sandra sat on was the one Nick had seen when he had arrived and it looked in excellent condition, it had a half-faring with a single headlight and a pair of smaller ones to either side. It looked from what Nick could see to be a Twin V and really meaty. She then […]

“Arh, ok,” Nick said, then placed the ear piece in his ear and wrapped the material around his neck and made sure the tech was over his adams apple. When he done this he heard Sandra’s voice say, “Do you hear me ok?” Nick then rather than talking normally sub vocalized his response,” Yeah, do […]

Nick looked at Sandra who had placed the material strip around her neck and the ear piece into her ear “Place the tech against your voice box, you only need to sub-vocalise and the tech in the material picks up the vibration that the voice box makes when you speak normally and via the box […]

Sandra led Nick outside, via her bedroom, where she grabbed a leather jacket and handed it to Nick. “You had better wear this. We’ve taking the bike. I want to show you the city after dark on this side of the street; where life truly is.” “Ok. Let’s go.” The two of them walked to […]

“I’m a freelance security expert, I break into people’s houses and test the security and, if the owners want an upgrade, I upgrade it so most thieves can’t break in.” “Ah… I see. You see Tina?” Nick nodded yes. “She is a full-time cross-dresser and is quite good at Electronics; she made our bike comm. […]

Everything started to spin and the next thing Nick knew he was sitting in the lap of Sandra and she was slowly stroking his arm. She bent down and whispered in his ear, “Don’t be startled and please hear me out.” She paused and got a nod of Nick’s head in response. ”I know about […]

“I guess you are worrying about things like clothes. Yes?” Paul asked. Nick nodded his head. “Don’t worry about things. We plan ahead. We have to. Let’s chill.” Sandra moved from behind the Breakfast bar carrying hers and Nick’s cans of beer and led Nick to a couple of empty bean bags and sat. Nick […]

“K. This ain’t Jarrzar but I have grown to really like you over the few times I’ve been with you. Paul, Tina and Abs have all said yes to you living here if you want.” “You serious?” responded Nick to this. “Very. I’ve never been more serious,” replied Sandra. “Do you want to fit in […]

  That is exactly what Nick did and then proceeded to spend the next thirty seconds coughing his guts up. When he was finished the smile that spread across his face was one of contentedness as the effects of the substance took hold. Sandra said to Nick, “Do you want to stay in this city?” […]

“Have you ever thought of doing a bunk and disappearing?” asked Sandra. “No, I’ve not had friends who would take me in to allow me that chance; plus it would hurt my family.” “It’s time for you to think about you Nick,” Paul responded to Nick’s statement. “You will be going off to college in […]

“Can I ask you something Nick?” asked Paul. “Tom, I know why you are here, you love a good party.” At this Tom smiled and continued to drink from a can of larger. “Yeah, ask away,” replied Nick. “I guess you ain’t too happy with your life of constant moving from place to place. I’m […]

“Yeah. I do. I think both me and Tom are a bit out of place here.” “Yeah, I know. The two girls Tina and Abs – we sent them to meet you,” Paul said, “They are both very open and wouldn’t wait for you to ask about the party – they would ask you.” Both […]

“Sorry the first time I saw you walking to the far table I saw someone who was down, but not the normal down of school life. Let me explain. I have an ability to see things that nearly all people miss and in you I saw an aura of a female warrior; not the male […]

Sandra then scooped a small amount of a green plant-like substance from the tin and placed it in a large opening in the pipe, and then she lit the lighter and sucked the air and flame through the pipe and held her breath for a few seconds and then let out a plume of bluish […]

The living room itself smelt good; as three different Joss sticks were being burnt. Candles in holders were also burning and dotted on the walls and on the large low table located in the middle of the room. When everyone entered some of the guests said hi to the new arrivals. Sitting on cushions, bean […]

When Nick and Sandra entered the house the front door opened onto the living room come opened the plan kitchen. Along the back wall was an open fire and a large screen that had patterns that changed in time with the music which was playing from hidden speakers. The kitchen was split into one section […]

Sandra said as she reached the front door, which was situated up a few wooden stairs, “Start her up if you want.” “No I can’t,” Nick responded. “Leave it sis,” Paul said. “Take him out for a ride later. I’m not surprised at Nick’s response.” “Why bro?” Sandra asked “Enclave.” “Yeah good point.”

The bar they were in was one of the underground bars. The walls were lined with what looked like oak panels, but, from the neighborhood, it was likely fake or laminated, and the fixtures turned it from an underground bar into an old-style pub of the early years. The punters looked like good people. Most […]

The three of them entered the bar and saw both Paul and Sandra Patterson sitting at the bar with a few people. The group walked over to the bar and ordered some drinks. “Hey Nick,” Tom, a school friend, called out. “Hi Tom. Good to see you here. Thought you weren’t going to be able […]

  It didn’t cross his mind at the time but the voice was not one that was correct or the dress sense. “Yeah no problem. They said for us to meet them at a local bar they use,” the black haired girl answered.   As the three of them walked towards the bar, “Here‘s the […]

Walking down 76th Street, he bumped into two girls dressed in a similar manner as the normal clothes Sandra wore; black. As it was quite dark on the street as the sun had dipped behind the closely packed buildings all he could see of the faces was that the makeup was also similar to Sandra’s. […]

  Beginning. At 7.30 in the evening he said his good bye to his mum and said, “Don’t expect me home until tomorrow, sometime mum.” “Ok, hun. Have fun tonight, and don’t get drunk,” his mum responded; turning from the work she was doing on the family’s computer. He walked out of the house and […]

He had just finished his year 11 exams; which, in the normal run of things, would have led him into college to learn a profession and then on to join the corporations. He had been invited to a party by some people he knew of but rarely saw but still called friends nonetheless. Most of […]

Nibola Calton – “Nibs” – is in her mid-20s and is now a very successful ghost runner; but that was not always the case. When she, or to be more accurate “he” was younger, he led a sheltered life living in a corporate enclave. His life was spent at one corporate-sponsored school or another, as […]

Reply I have had girls change at my place, and also arrive changed. It often depends on their circumstances. My trans girlfriend (now ex) was 24/7 and so this question did not arise. The most important thing is what type of person you are, how you treat others. Everything else can be worked on and […]

And a tip that all girls should adhere to is, never trust drinks off a stranger unless it put in your hand by the bar staff directly, and never turn your eyes away from your drink, even someone as butt ugly as me has had run-ins with guys spiking my drinks. Not trying to scare […]

One thing a couple of my old friends used to do is hire a cheap hotel room for the night, a few would get together, go in male mode, get dressed up in the room, have their night out, then dress back into male mode to go home. I would definitely consider having at least […]

Reply I think unless your voice is super deep or something, I doubt anyone would even think you were a guy dressed up, Most would just see you as a woman. So, dress up in something that makes you feel comfy and relaxed, and anywhere you are thinking of trying, research the area it is […]

Reply We all experienced these feelings in the early days of our journey. I would advise one little step at a time to help you accept and feel confident. Dressing and meeting a guy and going out is probably not the ideal first step to feeling at ease and comfy. Maybe the aid of a […]

Reply Most guys who are considerate and understanding would not mind at all, I’ve been to clubs and taken the girl I am going with in male mode she has got dressed at the club taking her time.

I have been dressing for many years, however, it has always been a private experience. Although I have started to identify that I may be in the wrong people however I haven’t sought any medical advice on this. However, my anxiety is really bad about meeting other guys and it definitely presents a barrier to […]

I also did a year of makeup and beauty part-time course when I started transition and had 0 problems, infact I got on really well with everyone on the course. The whole experience will be down to your attitude unfortunately as we are the odd ones out, so just enjoy the experience and be yourself […]

There is no right or wrong way to go about it, just the way you decide. I’m a 6ft transgender woman and in Uni doing a nursing degree full time, I have 0 issues and everyone is amazing both in uni and when out on work placement on a ward. I am under no illusions […]

Reply  EVERYONE is going to know that you are either a guy or transgender Woman, so there is no magical makeup to fool anyone, so please don’t stress over finding a solution that doesn’t exist. Your going to be a source of interest, most people will be polite, but understand that all of your coursemates […]

Reply Some great advice above. From what you say it sounds like you aren’t used to being Katie for that long so spend as much time as you can as her before the course and get used to doing everyday stuff. Then you can just concentrate on the course and get the most out of […]

Reply Well done on signing up, what is the subject of the course? I don’t see that you do need to pass or act feminine, you just need to pass as you and they will accept you for it. My advice would be that you don’t need to focus on anything else but the course. […]

Reply Between now and June get out as much as possible to build your confidence, like food shopping. You willfeel a lot better in yourself. I hope you signed up for the course as Katie, if not, change it soon with their administration. When you start the course introduce yourself as Katie. Wear shoes that […]

Reply The thing that will make you stand out will be your voice… try to practise speaking softly!

Question I’m doing a beauty course in June and will be attending as Katie. I’m just looking for advice on how to pass and act feminine for 3 full days? I have to wear a uniform so clothing isn’t a problem as I’ll look just like the girls there.

Miss told me to close my eyes and relax my face and I felt a very fine mist on my face. Miss used hair spray an old makeup trick to help keep the makeup on your face longer. I looked a million dollars, and just like a real woman. I loved my first makeup experience […]

After carefully applying jet black eyeliner on my eyes Miss then put on brown eye shadow on my eyelids. She also put some below my bottom eye blending it in then mixing blacks and grey blending them all into one. Finally, Miss put small white makeup on the corner of both my inner eyes. This […]

Miss carefully worked on my eyes, which she said were my best assets besides my long shapely womanly legs. I slightly blushed and Miss noticed and gave me a wee peck on my rouge cheek. Miss told me that she would give me smoky eye effect. Miss told me if I had brown eyes, she would mix […]

I listened and tried to remember what she had taught me. Miss then put on some pink rouge blusher on my cheeks and blended it in. All the time my face was becoming much more feminine, right in front of my eyes in the dressing mirror. I picked my lipstick. A lovely pink and my […]