Question
I think age comes into it too.
Speaking as a more mature crossdresser (almost 60) I know that my wife would never accept the situation if she knew.
It would severely damage, if not terminate, my 40-year-old marriage.
This is something I would not want to happen.
So I will continue to soldier on “in the closet”.
Yes, I do meet other Tvs and have fun with them occasionally.
However, this is more a reaction to my wife having lost all interest in certain sides of our relationship.