For me, the fear and threat of the strap would have detracted from all of those good things and ultimately, the experience could have been nothing but bad. I will always believe that a family (including the kind of family one finds in the school setting) to be dysfunctional when fear of bodily harm controls the behavior of those in the family. The possibility of being excessively strapped at school by a powerful Master at his whim for any reason, to me is no different than being strapped at home by an alcoholic dad who is likely to strike unexpectently with little provocation. In dysfunctional families there also can be many good things in the periphery but they are all tainted by the dynsfunction that is at the center. Families ruled by fear and threat of pain in my mind are definitely dysfunctional.

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