My own situation is a bit odd.
I’ve been dressing since I was 9 at the very least, maybe before.
Dates and memories a bit tenuous.
I came out to my wife last year that I was properly transexual, though we had discussed this in some detail before about my emotional and soecial reactions and so forht being totally female, and she was fine with that.
I suppose my process of coming out to her was a very, very long one with me laying groundwork in explaining how I felt, and with my own emotional turmoil being much in the fore of our relationship.